I know my name IS MartysGirl .... however...

[Guest KristofsMom]

I am no longer Martys' Girl! I have been through a LONG WINDING AND TRAGIC DIVORCE!! NOT to mention.......I still hide to this day from HIM!! It's been very mental, physical, and more than I would tell!!! Put it this way...I wouldn't wish anything I went through on my worst enemy! I know this isn't a tell all forum...lol I just want to be honest to those who may know me here.....maybe some one can learn, protect, relate, or however they wish... Just a FYI.. For those who do not know me... I am one of the members on the old board.... My credit went from $hit to 700 club..lol Most may remember me b/c I helped Identity theft victims... (once struggle and I superseded)

 

So GUYS... I never thought this would happen to ME (THE credit lady as known around town)! I am a mother of a three year old who was so strong and Now THIS!!! All I can think is WHAT The hell has happened!!! DAMN IT.....!!! FYOU.. You will not keep me down!!! I know sounds crazy.. but I am MAD, UPSET, ASHAMED, YOU NAME IT!!!

 

I hate to admit It but I AM forced to start over from SCRATCH. It is sad....... I do NOT even know what cards are in my name and with what company! I just found out I had a home in Oklahoma foreclosed on!!!!

 

My credit life has gone to chocolate and I need some mental stability to rebuild!!! This is the ONLY place I could think of or talk to(you have heard more than my family)!! So, here I am.... I plan on pulling a new credit report but I fear my new address will be put in the wrong hands (the X)... However.. I know I need it to begin a fresh start for me and my son (who is the love of my life and deserves the BEST!)

 

I have got so much to do and learn (I am sure so much has changed since I was avid in 03)! I just hope that I can have help here!!

 

For those of you just looking at the new topic..... READ AND LEARN!!!

[radi8]

I remember you, you've been around for a long time- and at Cnet before that

 

I'm sorry to hear that life has taken that turn for you. <hug>

Best advice I have, is to concentrate on the positive things that will come from it, and work to eliminate the negative things....then let them go.

You've plenty of old friends around here that will stand by your side as you move forward. Just let us know what you need.

 

You are still a strong person. Perhaps even stronger. You just need to apply your strength in different areas now.

There is no shame in starting over with finances and credit, or life for that matter.

I'm doing the same for different reasons, so are many others. Just pick up and start moving forward again..nothing negative lasts forever.. It'll pass!

 

As for the credit reports, I'd find some way to use an address that isn't your physical address. A PO box one or two towns over for credit-related things might be an option. A side benefit of that might be that cleanup is easier with a different address.

 

Best wishes to you and your son.

Starting over presents some wonderful opportunities- please take the time to find them and concentrate on them! It makes dealing with the negatives that pop up that much easier.

And let us know how we can help.

 

BTW, if you want your username altered, any of the Admins (me, LKH, Pam, Breeze) can do so. Just let one of us know.

 

 

I'm moving the post over to the general forum where it'll get more attention.

Edited January 15, 2006 by radi8

[psp]

Nice to see you again MG. Take a deep breath and relax. You're back among friends and we'll do everything we can to help. You'll be back on the road to credit health in no time. Hugs to your little one, too!

[genseeker]

MG, I don't know you but I feel so bad for anyone who has to run from a bad situation. It makes me so thankful for my DH.

 

Anyways, don't forget to opt out and especially Lexis/Nexis. You certainly have a reason to be opted out form L/N. If you can get a box with Mailboxes Etc (now UPS Store) you can tell them not to release any info without a court order. The post office may not be the best choice since you are required to give them oyur physical address in order to get a box with them.

 

We lived in a campground for a few weeks several years ago and we had no probs getting a box w/ UPS store and they never even asked for a physical address. You can also tell them not to sign for anything certified or needing a signature without your approval first. We did that because we were hiding from DH paretns, his mom was trying to take our DD away and had threatened to just take her and leave the country. For us, anything needing a signature had a notice left for us and then if we decided to get that item, we signed the notice and authorized it to be left for us. Luckily of rus, 3 yrs with absolutely no contact made his mom realize we were serious and she now accepts our decisions and knows if she tries anythig contact will be gone again.

[Pam]

MG.... I'm sorry you're going through this.

 

ITA with radi8, if you need your moniker changed, just send one of us a PM, we can take care of that for you.

[Ocean]

MG,

 

Sorry that you are going through all of this.....no one deserves to put through it....

 

Sounds like you are a strong person....and you will become more stronger as you pass through this period..

 

Just remember this: To be on a mountain top, one must pass and journey through the valley along the way...

 

 

As I give you a big ole bear hug.....

 

Peace at you MG,

Ocean

[Guest KristofsMom]

Thanks so much guys!!! All of your responses where really nice! It was great to read this morning and it has lifted my spirits some!!

 

Uhhhh I have got go really quick.. I will be back. My son just slipped and is crying!

 

Ohh yeah.. sorry I posted in the wrong area!

[direred]

MG, I haven't ever "met" you (because I started after you were mostly finished), but I sure have read your posts. I'm sorry to hear of what you're going through.

 

I have to admit, I've always secretly wondered about people who use relationships with others as a nick -- it always struck me as an invitation to disaster, but then I'm a superstitious sort.

 

Anyhow, it's good to see you again. I'm sorry about the foreclosure in Oklahoma, but I'm sure there's an interesting story about that.

[Cascades]

MG...

 

Instead of a PO Box, you may want to go to a UPS store and get a box there instead. That will give you a street address. I use mine for everything....

 

As far a bad relationships blowing up, I could write a book!

 

Cas

Edited January 26, 2006 by Cascades

[Fallon]

AND you could get Breeze or one of the other admin's to get ya a new name, kinda like a fresh start here too!!

[i8thegreenbean]

I am new here, but wanted to tell you, I am so sorry!

 

You will be a much stronger person in the future--you will learn how to do things for yourself and your child---the ONLY 2 people who matter!

 

Please keep your head up, be strong, and kick butt!

 

d.