on, post here and I'll answer or tell ya I just dunno. Good luck on your savings adventure!
Here's the Table of Contents:
-My favorite budgeting and bargain hunting books and websites
-identifying the purpose behind your budgeting and saving
-why you're in big trouble if you don't have a budget
-money doesn't grow on trees (or, the facts of life)
-things you're probably spending money on unnecessarily
-how to cut your electric bill
-avoiding the grocery store "fleece"
-saving for college, retirement, etc. and building your nest egg
-how dh and I did it.
I'm going to add more websites, books, references, etc., but I wanted to get this up and posted
ASAP, as so many people have requested this. I'll also come back and add more detail on certain
subjects as time allows.
Also, I feel like this is an awfully long but not terribly detailed post. Like I said, I'll come back as time allows and add more info, updates. I tried to just hit the high points in order to get this posted for everybody.
Finally, let's all remember that what seems elementary to us, is really hard for others. In other words, you wouldn't believe how long it took me to get it through my thick skull that making $0/month, and ordering chinese every night just wasn't a workable plan...on a number of levels
Thanks a goodluck!
And don't forget to post feedback/what you'd like more info on!!!
All the best,
Char.
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My favorite budgeting/bargain hunting boards:
Bargain Hunting Tips For Parents (geared towards parents, but great general info on sales, etc. as well!):
http://bbs.babycenter.com/board/pregnancy/...abyfinance/5465
Family Finances (these ladies can tweak a budget tighter than you ever thought imaginable!):
http://bbs.babycenter.com/board/pregnancy/...finance/1294756
My favorite budgeting/bargain books:
_The Complete Tightwad Gazette_, by Amy Dacyzyn
_Miserly Moms_, by Jonni McCoy
***Don't dare buy these books when you can check them out at your library free! Also, a lot of these books are pretty extreme on ways to cut costs, so you may have to read a few before you find one that you like and suits your lifestyle and needs. There's lots more on ways the cut costs, but these are my two personal favorites. Oh, and when you find one you like, don't pay full price!!! Check used book stores, amazon.com (with free super saver shipping), etc. to pay the smallest amount possible.
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Some thoughts on direction...
Why are you trying to cut costs? Most people don't get so tight they squeak for the fun of it, so why are you doing it? To save for college or retirement (or Disney...)? To pay down debt? Do you want to be a full-time parent? Because you're spending is totally out of control?
Whatever the reason, you need to stay focused on it and constantly take your negative thoughts about money and "cheapness" captive. Let's face it, controlling your spending is not fun, it's a fact of life. The sooner you really believe that, and focus on your goals, the easier your time cutting back and budgeting will be.
Get a financial planner. My dh and I pay $400/year for ours (totally deductible, btw), and it pays for itself in dividends. Your financial planner can help you make a budget (if you don't already have one), make sure you have positive cash flow, identify your long term goals, and help plan and save appropriately. It's worth EVERY LAST PENNY!!!
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If you don't have a budget, you're in big trouble...
Some people may take issue with this, but I stand by my statement. I can't tell you how many people I know who don't know how much money they make, and how much they spend. They're the ones who get paid every Friday, and by Tuesday are broke, and for the life of them can't figure out where the heck all their money went.
Some people are more militant about tracking expenditures than others. My husband, for example, has the most complicated budget spreadsheet even our financial planner has ever seen, with every conceivable expense budgeted for. When you make changes in one place, the other no fixed budget line items "roll" to reflect the change in spending. It's seriously compulsive. I don't suggest anyone here do it.
What you need to know, is how much you make every month after taxes. Then make a list of all your known regular monthly expenditures (ie, rent, utilities, car payment, credit cards, etc.). Then, make a list of all of you regular costs that aren't broken into monthly obligations (ie, insurance,
Christmas, car maintainance, etc.). Divide by 12, and add this amount to your regular monthly budget.
The goal, is to earmark the money in savings so that when the obligation arrives, you're prepared to meet it, instead of being caught unprepared, putting stuff on your credit cards, or adding it to the list of reasons you are borrowing from family memebers again (you know, "something came up"), etc.
After your known, non-negotiable expenses are set out, then make a list of "adjustable" expenses. These are your expenses for grcoeries, entertainment, cloths, etc. You can adjust what you think is reasonable based on your own personal needs and goals. I will say, your grocery bill can always be trimmed. ALWAYS!
Budgeting is hard at first. When my husband and I were married, it was about 6 months before we had a real working budget because we just had no idea what a reasonable amount was to be spending on groceries, eating out, entertainment, the dog, etc. But after a couple months, we figured it out.
***TIP*** If you really don't know how much you're spending on things, take a couple months and keep meticulous track of how much you're spending. DH and I accomplished this by simply charging everything
and paying it off at the end of the month, so we had a really easy time tracking expenses and plugging them into a spreadsheet. Heck, a lot of cards will flag expenditures and tell you what the charge was for (ie, gas/automotive, food/grocery, etc.). If this option isn't available, just get serious about writing down in a notepad every dime you spend, and what you spend it on. Sorry. I know it sucks, but it's just gotta be done.
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Money doesn't grow on trees...
So we probably figured this out prior to credit boards, but it warrants repeating: managing money is simple: you've gotta make more than you spend. Of course, we've all discovered the tough part: you've gotta make more than you spend...
It's a simple fact of life. I don't care what you're budget is, there's a way to cut money out of it. You've got to learn what is and is not really necessary in life. You've gotta get used to seeing the THOUSANDS of ways you spend money every day that are frivolous (hehehe). And you've gotta stop being ashamed of counting your pennies. I'm not talking about being a scrooge, I'm talking about being *aware* of what your spending. Let's face it, if you can't afford to be generous, you've gotta much bigger problem than using coupons in the checkout
line at the grocery store.
Whenever you go to buy something, remember this: for every thing one member of your family gets (moneywise), someone else goes without.
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What you're spending money on that isn't necessary...
We need to make an important distinction between what is and is not necessary in life. If you can afford Directv, a big house in suburbia, and getting your hair colored once a month, great! But if you can't make
your minimum obligations, are picking creditors to pay, and aren't meeting your savings goals, then I'm gonna go out on a limb and say you need to decide how badly you really need that online porn subscription
Here's a list of things you're probably paying for, but can cut:
-Cable service (if you must have it, are you getting the base pkg? Is Directv cheaper? Do you really watch all those channels)?
-Internet service (free or darn cheap!)
-phone service (you only need the base pkg, if you've got call waiting, forwarding, *69, etc., get rid of it!)
-cell phone (can you switch to one of the no contract cell phones, so you're covered when you need it?)
-electricity (do a web search on being more energy efficient)
-cleaning products (you can make your own that are way safer and more effective than what's in stores)
-grocery bill (clip coupons, watch sales, etc.)
-Magazine subscriptions (read them at the library or online)
-babysitting (can you swap with another family?)
-Late and over the limit fees on your cards, and overdrafting the checking account (if this happens to you often, get control, break the cycle, and STOP IT!!!)
-You get the idea...
Now many will balk, and say that they must have high speed internet or cell phones for work. If that's the case, then either your employer should be reimbursing you, or you should be writing it off on your taxes. Case closed.
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How to cut your electric bill
-turn the lights, tvs, computers, etc off when not in use.
-line dry one load of laundry a week
-cut down the temp on your water heater
-NEVER throw towels in the dryer (they take forever! hang them up!)
-only run the dishwasher when it's full/wash big things by hand
-in the summer, turn the thermostat up 2 degrees, you won't notice (unless you're pregnant)
-open the windows and use fans, instead of ac, if your climate and allergies allow
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How to cut your grocery bill
-clip coupons
-buy what's on sale
-combine coupons with sales for super duper savings
-plan your menus based on what's on sale that week
-institute a salad and baked potatoe night (weekly or monthly)
-view meat as a side instead of a main course
-buy the whole chicken and cut it, skin it, and bone it yourself (59 cents a lb, versus $3.99 a pound...)
-eat one vegetarian meal weekly
-don't use meat where it's not absolutely necessary (ie, spaghetti sauce, lasagna, etc.)
-substitute ground turkey for ground beef (healthier, cheaper, and NO difference in taste)
-Buy your bread in bulk, on sale, and freeze it
-Heck, get yourself a deep freezer, get creative about storage, and buy everything in bulk (we store non-perishables under
the guest bed...)
-The less prepared you buy your food, the cheaper (so make the damn salad yourself instead of buying it in a bag)
-Keep a price list (like your budget, write down what you pay for things so that you'll have a point of reference for whether
that "sale" item is really such a good deal)
-Learn to cook, and make it from scratch
-Never go to the grocery store hungry
-Always go with a list, and STICK TO THE STINKING LIST!!!
-stick to the outside aisles (generally produce, meat, dairy, bread, etc.) and you won't get in trouble. The killer
expensive stuff is in the middle of the store.
-Remember that there's a reason the milk is always in the farthest back corner of the store...
-Generally, the most expensive items are placed at eye level. So look above and below for the best deals...
-Be wary of the end displays that look like good deals. I've found that 99% of the time, they post that it's a super deal,
but it's actually a heck of a lot more expensive than whatever the normal (already horrendous) price is. This is especially
true for bread and detergent.
-It's generally cheaper to buy OTC medications, health and beauty supplies, and non-food items in general at the drug store,
or somewhere like Wal-Mart or Target. You'll pay for the extra convinience of "one stop grocery shopping".
-Make your own household cleaners (they're safer and more effective)
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Saving...for vacation, college, retirement, nest egg, etc...
So if you aren't "paying yourself", you really should be.
The first, and most important thing for you to start saving for, is your nest egg. This is what you'll tap when someone loses a job or an unexpected expense (eg, car repair, major medical, new baby, etc.). For most, you'll want three full months of saving to live on in the event someone loses a job as a start, and then dump an extra token amount ($5, $500,
whatever) for when emergencies arise.
DH works in the tech industry, which is particularly volatile, so we have 6 months savings "rat holed" away so that we can make it in the interim if he lost his job. Here's what I mean, to make all our bills and spend just the way we do now costs us about $3K/month. If we cut way back (no eating out, special treats, "play money", etc.) and live at our bare bones
budget (fixed bills + $200/month food), we need $2K/month. We have 6 months full savings stashed ($18K) + extra money for emergencies. We can live the way we do right now for 6 months with no problem.
In any eventuality, if building that much of a nest egg isn't an option for you at this time, you need to have a well planned plan of attack in case of emergency. If you lose your job, what will you do? If you fall unexpectedly ill, how will you handle the bills??? If your car explodes and you absolutely must buy a new one today, how will you pay? Don't run from this, better to face it now than end up going off half cocked due to emotion.
On retirement and college....
If you're a parent, you're no doubt thinking about college. You're probably thinking about retirement. Here's what dh and I have learned:
-it's much less painful to save a little over a long period, so start early.
-as much as you love your kids, you have to pay yourself first. You (or your kids) can get a loan to send your kids to school. No one is going to give you a loan to retire.
-It's a lot easier to save with goals.
So get started now and take advantage of all of those tax deferred accounts!!! Check out 529's for college (you don't pay taxes going in or out), Roth IRAs (you pay taxes on what you put in and capital gains, and you can use them for qualified higher education expenses and retirement, so they can't count against your kids for financial aid purposes), Coverdell (the old education- also can be used for primary and secondary private school) IRAs, traditional IRAs, your company's 401(k) plan (especially if they have a contribution match), the Uniform Gift to minors Act (for college), CDs, etc.
This is where it starts getting really nice to have a financial planner, as you'll need to address the tax consequences of each account, and decide how much risk you're willing to take with your money
For college, you need to decide how much of your child's education you are willing/abe to finance, and then figure out how much you'll have to save monthly to meet that goal adjusted for inflation. There are lots of great calculators online...
For retirement, you need to decide at what age you want to retire, how much it will cost you to live (keeping in mind that you hopefully won't have debt, including mortgage) per year, and figure out how much you have to save monthly, adjusting for inflation, etc. Again, hunt for online calculators Keep in mind, that most people actually spend about 50% more a year than was typical previously their first few years of retirement (travel, etc.). So be sure to budget for travel, spoiling the grandkids, etc.!!!
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So, sorry for the novel!!! There are lots of other ways to trim that budget, and get used to saving!
Do check the bargain hunting and family finances board that I posted for some really in depth, great tips on ways to cut back. You can also post here, and I'll do my best to provide my expert tightwad opinion, as soon as possible. Also post anything else you'd like to see, it's pretty safe to say I've figured out ways to do just about everything as cheaply as possible. And if I haven't yet, I'm sure someone has
I'll close with our story, just so you know it really can be done.
My dh and I have been married just over 2 years, and are expecting our second child. We own our home (the only home we'll ever need), drive a pair of junker cars, and live completely on dh's income. I (char) stay home with our son and daughter (well, she's *just about* here. While my (char's) formal background is in microbiology, I have a Real Estate License, and work when I'm able from home (ie, not on bedrest).
DH works in the tech industry. After we stashed our nest egg, we calculated we needed to save ~$25K/year for our children's college, and our own retirement (vacations, etc. are also lumped into this amount). We've managed to do this by aggressively controlling our money, and making sure that every dime we spend is on a necessary expenditure. Because we're only dependant on one income to meet our obligations, any money that Char brings in goes directly to savings, and b/c I work from home, we neutralize the childcare expense.
It's tough. I have a serious Kate Spade bag addiction. But having to scrimp, save, and wait for a sale makes that bag all the more special. You can do it, I know you can!!![/size][size=12]
