define my monthly take home as X

define her monthyl take home as Y

allowance = A

A = f(X+Y)

or

A = f(X)


so if A is to be 10% of X and/or Y

A = .1(X+Y)

or

A = .1(X)

which is more fair?

X = .38Y

which A is larger?

A = .1(X+Y)

or

A = .20(X)

Sounds to me like X better do what Y says and not complain!

Id tell X to pound sand and Ill spend what I want to lol

LOL. I've spent/wasted 2 hours today trying to figure out the optimal spending allowance for myself.

I'd use

A = Y NOT

a= .1(x) seams reasonable

a as a function of Y is more what I have in mind

You're wasting too much time and spinning your wheels. The correct answer is... whatever your wife says you can have.

'tis always easier to ask forgiveness than to ask permission...same applies to spending

A= [(X+Y)-(e+s)] /2 where e= household expenses and s=money to savings and investments.

Surely we can work pi in here somehow?

Does Hegemony bake?

A = .1(X+Y)

A = .05(X+Y)

(I assume wife gets an allowance as well.)

yah it is called amex platinum

I guess the optimal allowance depends on what the two of you feel you contribute to the relationship, and how you value what you contribute to the relationship.

You make a touch more than 2.5x what she makes, but maybe she cleans the house, does all the cooking and shopping, on top of working. There is certainly value there, and I would adjust the allowances accordingly.

Now, if you work full time, and she works 20 hours a week and spends the other 20 shopping and drinking coffee with the girls, maybe .10(Y) is more appropriate.

I like to think I'd keep things equal between myself and a spouse, but my ex and I made about comparable money, and somehow I ended up paying for everything all the time, and she was perpetually broke.

I make significantly less than she does. X = .38Y

But I agree that in general home upkeep is hugely valuable.

I bet you think its even more valuable if you're doing the upkeep!

My brain's a little fuzzy... by close of business today I'll have been in the office 150 hours in the previous 14 days...

Four ?

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