QUOTE (radi8 @ Sep 24 2009, 09:32 PM)

IMO you are going to have to find a way to bring that mortgage current. The problem is, the automatic stay prevents the lender from doing very much, it's a blurred line between offering you a voluntary catch-up plan, and violating the ban on asking you for payments.
Once the stay is lifted they can speak with you again, but if they insist on the full amount upfront- your choices are either to pay it, or let house go.
If you discharge the mortgage, be careful about "modifications" after the fact. You could conceivably put yourself back on the hook for the debt again by voluntarily agreeing to repay the loan under whatever the new terms might be.
I'm glad that I wasn't wrong. This is what I was told too. My friend is talking to the first mortgage AND the second mortgage co. They are talking to her. I told her today to be careful!!!! If you reaffirm(sp), then she's back on the hook.
But her loan is a unique animal. It involves fraud on the lender's part. I just hope that she can come to terms with this. It bothered her sooooooooooo much that she had a heart attack. I posted about this months ago.
We talked about whether it was worth the stress or not. If you cannot deal with the stress of the situation, just let it go. It's just material possessions and those come and go, ya know? One can always buy another house down the road.
I remember when I lost my house. I cried...slinging snot cried. It was aweful. That was a few years ago. I ordered socks for my girls' cheer team for Cheer for a Cure back in March and Paypal (don't even get me started

) kept referring back to my old address even though I had updated it numerous times. -The adress for the house that I lost. They shipped the socks for the whole cheer team to my old house. Talk about embarrassing. The bank branch manager in the next town bought my house. We knew each other.

But her family was really nice and held my socks for the team and I got them.
But my point is that when I went back to the house ( I hadn't even driven by it after I moved out), walked up to the door etc., it really hit me. It was just a house. A material possession. I had my family and my health. That's what truly matters.
And that's the most important thing. Your family. It doesn't really matter where you live, your still a family.
If your house is something that you are willing to fight for? Great. But you must be able to accept the bad with the good and realize that you may not win. If you cannot deal with the stress then IMHO, I'd let it go. You are already off the hook with the BK.
Renting isn't so bad. Just think...when something breaks, you can call the landlord and they'll foot the bill. Just trying to be lighthearted........
Just to say that I'm no expert. When I lost my house there weren't any loan modification deals or anything floating around. But let's face it. Few are getting these loan mod's anyways. It's kind of a sick joke.
How many success stories have you read?