I'm almost afraid to write this because I'm afraid that you'll take it the wrong way. But you are asking for help, here's my 2 cents...
I understand that you are upset that Sallie Mae sent your info. to the wrong address and that they did not tell you that you could have applied for the forebearance over the phone (also online, FYI) but that doesn't necesarily make it their fault. Bottom line is that you are responsible for making sure that payment is made or that the forebearance/deferment is complete. I say this not because I think it makes you a bad person, but because I think if you write to them and tell them that this is their fault, they are not going to feel a great deal of kindness towards you.
I am certainly not an expert, but if I were to right a goodwill letter, I would stress that I had made mistakes, I didn't understand the system, but now I get it and it has made me a better person, more responsible, more apt to be aggressive in making sure that accounts are up to date, not relying on erroneous info. but do the necesary research myself, etc, etc...
Trust me, student loans gave me a quick, painful lesson in life. But a lesson that has served me well. Never believe a single thing you hear. Make sure it's in writting. Until you see that letter, in your hand, in fresh crisp ink...
"Dear Mr/Ms New Grad,
Your loan is in forebearance, the next payment will be due in 6 months...."
Well, nothing else means diddly-squat.
And this is a lesson that will serve you well in life. If your credit is on the line, you must make sure that you have the correct papers in hand, that they have received the correct papers from you and you even have to make sure that they have correctly processed your papers.
In a perfect world, Sallie Mae phone operators and data processors would be flawless. But pointing out Sallie Mae's inadequacies to Sallie Mae is unlikely to garner any sympathy. I would stress your own learning experience and how you're a much more responsible capable person now, etc.
I wish you the best of luck! Let us know how it turns out.
Thank you, and you're probably right, flaming them would most likely not garner any positive results. It is not my intention to blast them in a letter, I just want to point out how this breakdown in communication is negatively affecting my life. As I stated earlier, I was in economic hardship; I had a job, but it paid barely enough to take care of shelter/food. Somehow they never got the message. Great point on getting everything in writing; I electronically signed for this forebearance though, in fear of the same ugly process repeating. I hope that it's ok, I haven't recieved any paperwork from SM since. Thanks also for the tips on writing the letter! Would anyone else care to share some tips?